RECOVERING FROM ABUSE...

RECOVERING FROM ABUSE ...






RECOVERING FROM ABUSE...

HELLO FRIENDS,

I hope you are well!

Many of us have been abused and recovering from abuse is a process, which is more or less long
according to circumstances, individuals and attitudes.

When biologically lot younger, I was involved for a while in charismatic evangelical churches where pastors were preaching that
all inner or physical healings should be IMMEDIATE if not it meant the person was sinful, rebellious or cultivated unbelief in their hearts.

Anyhow, I got really angry when a young girl who had already been a victim of abuse was victimized and blamed by those who should have contributed to her recovery!

This was partly what incited me to leave such fellowship, witnessing so many injustices for years
going on in the name of God, because of the heavily control freak mentality of tyrannical primitive male values, harshly ruling these churches, so insensitive but still screaming about Godly Love!

The last straw was when this young blind and disable girl who really loved Christ and had nothing much else in her life to hope for than attending churches and christian youth groups etc, and was desperately trying to get a life or her own, working at feeling whole, blossomed and involved in the community,
was accused by such abusive male leaders of not having faith because after he had prayed for her physical healing, she was still blind and disable!!!

As a punishment, he and the other leaders had decided to ban her from the christian youth club she enjoyed so much, making of her a bad example!!!!
How can one recover from such blows, mainly when unfairly shown as the bad sheep, the one who is at fault
in the eyes of God in front of a huge congregation of more than a thousands members???

Well, you might not have experienced this type of public humiliation and abuse but you all had your share of abuse, you need to recover from.

The first thing, I will say, dear friends is not to worry about the factor time.
Inner healing is a long process and one cannot expect to get up and perform healed at once!!!
Unfortunately, even in secular circles, lots of pushy  so called therapists believe in shock treatments,
where you get agressed or bullied as well during the therapy or where you will be blamed if you dont perform healed asap!
This is only going to hinder your inner healing!

As much as you know, I like filming in an inter-active way etc
 as much I dislike reality shows where you go and wash all your dirty laundry in public and end up more hurt after opening up to millions of viewers who are not trained counsellors or specifically empathic people with a gift in inner healing,
but who are at the contrary,
like the Roman crowds at antique circus, greedy for more blood and bad action!!!

People who have been part of such reality shows have confessed later on to have become suicidal
or to have seen their private lives worsen as a result!

Inner healing will only occur in  a safe environment and this safe environment requires you to be
protected and anonymous from the wild world around.
Nobody needs to know the true colours of your knickers!
Except you maybe and eventually your partner.

Our internet mediatised society is also a temptation to expose our scars publicly or to demand
personal attention through mediocrity and lower energies... allowing more dirty gossips and risks of more abuse.

Staying safe and private seems more and more difficult but it is a discipline to help inner healing.

Not confiding in too many people is another key.
Choosing well the few friends or therapists you might
confide in, is another priority.
It is good to diversify at times and not remain always in the same circles or with the same counsellor.
However it has to be done with care and wisdom.
Sometimes we all make mistakes and when we realise we gave our trust wrongly or when we realise that
we are not fitting our counsellor etc then it is best to change and move on.

Nothing must stop us in our inner healing quest!!!!
Work must remain in progress and work is actually remaining in progress all our lives!

Even when we reached a successful level of inner healing, we at times seem to be never there, as we identify layers and layers unknown to us, popping out suddenly,
sometimes at the most unappropriate moment and in the ugliest manner, showing us that we are not done yet, with our mess!!!

If you have been victims of severe abuse in your life and feel bad about being seen as different because of these scars affecting your personality in spite of all your best efforts to mend...as fast and discreetly as you can...
dont worry, we are all survivors of the casualties of life!!!
and getting healed is longer than an earthly lifetime job!!!

We might not all have been exposed to the same level of inner wounding but we all are in need of inner healing!
So dont feel that this makes you a wierdo!
If others make you feel that way around you, I suggest these
are not the best people to help you and you must look around for a new circle of loving friends!

Sometimes God does not seem to heal disabled people or at least He does not on this earth, and they seem to go
through suffering all their lives, however the inner healing they experience through such traumatic
experiences can turn into a blessing for many as Joni Erickson is demonstrating in her video above.
You too can turn your pain into a blessing... It is also out of my own anguish, disappointments, failures and pain that I created
today UGF, spiritual humanitarian and artistic, films and foundation to be!!!!
You too can be adding your share of pain transfigured in a blessing for all to our world, using
the extreme pain you suffered as a deeper knowledge to contribute to our world!
Sensitive people, artists and people who have gone through exceptional trials and tests are actually
blessed with a deeper intuition and vision, revealing new fresh angles to the rest of us! So you too are a blessing and will help more people from the ashes of your own sufferings!

I also met on the internet lovely ladies who explained that although successful and blossomed etc they went through
seemingly unexplained very dark patches. They could not figure out why????
Please watch video about the founder of the diamond experience, Jacqueline Joy...
Well, these sort of things happen to all of us, when we have too long covered up or when we did
not even realise we had our own share of inner healing needs because life did not seem too bad
for us and even seemed to have been very good indeed!

This is why Christ explains that we all are at different levels, damaged individuals in need of mending.
He explains very clearly that it is the inside of the cup which needs to get cleansed and not
the outward appearence.
Religion, tradition, social obligation etc often force us to present a clean outside of the cup to the world
if not we could soon be rejected, lose our jobs, friends and family etc
What is called a public image is paramount in the media for any individual or company to succeed at the vanity fair...

However Christ, teaches us all the opposite.
He asks us to go aside, away, far from the crowd and to find a safe place to pray and meditate, contemplate so to be true again!!!!
To be true again, takes time to put the mask down and stop performing!

Weakness is seen as  such a terrible flaw in our male tyrannical primitive value orientated society, that anyone wishes to avoid
it, at all cost. However, it is by accepting first our imperfections, our needs, our weaknesses and deal with it
that we can only start building up new strength of character through contemplation of universal love, our divine
reference and through acting upon it!
These ideal moments of truth will shape you in the person you truly are and free your beautiful unique inner potential into
reality for the benefit of all of us!!!!

Let us stop pressurising each other to become someone else, to wear a perfect false mask, to pretend and perform.
We are all war injured, we are all wounded individuals, imperfect individuals in need of recovery. We need to find
with each other what I can call a safe transparency!

In my own life, I still suffer sometimes sudden irrational reactions at some people or events. It is simply because although
I made my business to inner heal from very young whislt helping others to inner heal too, I am far from arrived at the
end of my personal journey!
Of course, like you, I totally dislike that and feel so ashamed of myself when this happens to me.
However, I thank God and life for showing me by popping it up, what I still need to work on.

My clowning really helps me in these situations and I recommend you to also learn to laugh at yourself
with compassion and love of course, not with nagging, since laughing is good for the health and also
it brings you the adequate healing distance, to not take your pains so seriously!!!
Most of all, keep loving yourself and surround yourself with gentleness and lots of patience... Don't forget,
you are on your way!!! We all are on our way!!!
Life is a wonderful pilgrimage and journey and through loving and helping each other as we love our own selves we are contributing to heal our world too!!!

If you need any counselling and you think I could be the best fit for you please dont hesitate to write
to me at luce.fleury@universalgracefilm.com
I am not perfect and my counselling is not perfect but each one of us can be right at the right time and
the right place of need!

And don't forget that you are always very much loved!

Blessings, sister lucy